In my short foray into online dating, I have discovered a few truths that I'd like to share with you.
1) Sentence structure is an excellent indicator of mental health. (ie. c u later)
2) A lot of people aren't over their previous relationships. (Wow. She hurt you bad, eh? Can't believe it's taken you 18 years, 4 months, 12 days and 6 hours to love again.)
3) Beware the over-use of the personal pronoun.
4) Pets are the new relationship substitute.
5) Having a connection on paper and having a connection in person are two entirely separate things.
6) I think I am better at being in a relationship than I am at dating.
7) Online dating is a time suck.
Anyway, it's still early in the process but I persist, firm in the knowledge that I am the Universe's tinkle ball -- happily being batted around the block while I await my one true love. Wish me luck.
2 comments:
Interesting. I have heard some guys doing this Match.com thing, and they said they have fairly good results. Did not question "fairly good results" except for the question; "are people who they say they are?"
My guess is this: It's better to going to a bar and meeting people. I know that didn't work.
It's too bad you can't just walk up to someone and say, "You look nice. Tell me about yourself and are you a weirdo?" And then say, "Let's get a cup of coffee and just talk." I would want to hear not what they said, but see their body movement like; how their eyes moved (did they dart, look around the room, etc), how they shifted in a chair, did they ask real questions or superficial crud - " I think I would fail my own test frankly. I suck at dating because I am not sure how much to reveal that I am "an idiot" who likes to be funny and make others laugh, like the lighter side of life - but can overanalyze what someone said, don't want to hurt others and don't want to be hurt, want a person who can "contribute" to the relationship and not be a an energy sucking vampire, etc and etc some more.
PS - Do people really look like they look in those photos? They alway look "happy" and "fun."
PPS (post post script) - I don't think I would like to reveal all in the bio thing - because there is not a question like; "Are you an idiot sometimes? When?" Of course this would take too long to explain without a lot of more explaining and gesturing
Yes, grasshopper. You know how may peeps I've had the opportunity to meet via the online avenue. You catch on really quick.
The fact that you are even aware of #1 means that you've just written off at least 50% of the online peeps. And that's a good thing. The time suckage would be immense if you hadn't figured that one out later, than sooner.
#5 is why I try to meet ASAP if there is any kind of connection on paper.
#2 is why I think so many online are just looking for someone to talk to. They need pen pals or a therapist. Or both. You are neither. Ditch 'em.
Good luck my friend - I've done pretty much all the sites - but I do recommend "Plenty of Fish" - only because they do a whack of personality tests, similar to match.com - but are free.
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